Grayson’s Synergetic Therapy
Dr. Henry Grayson has always been interested in determining what form of therapy is helpful for different people and different problem areas. He has studied most of the major psychotherapies, the new sciences, the world’s philosophies and spiritual traditions, and energetic systems. While in postdoctoral training to become certified as a psychoanalyst, he founded the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, a postgraduate training institute in New York City, which reflected his vision for an integrative approach to helping people overcome their problems, he had already discovered that any single approach to therapy was not effective for all people nor all problem areas, and that different therapies attended more effectively to different problems and for different people. Hence, he draws from psychoanalysis, CBT, Gestalt Therapy, hypnosis, bioenergetics analysis, the newer therapies (EMDR, EFT, TFT, and TAT), mindfulness, somatic experiencing, and others.
Central in any successful therapy is the quality of the therapeutic relationship. There must be an atmosphere of non-judging acceptance, safety, active listening, compassion, understanding, authenticity, humor, and avoiding diagnostic labels which tend to box people in. And of course, there is a genuine caring for the welfare and healing of the other person while holding a deep belief in the person’s limitless potentiality for healing: emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We do not make the suffering real.
A synergetic approach goes beyond the diverse therapies, for synergetic is defined as “the simultaneous action of separate agencies which, together, have greater total effect than the sum of their individual effects.” Why is this so? Because there are not, in fact, separate agencies but in synergy we bring the re-membering of the whole.
Albert Einstein stated it poignantly: “A human being is part of the whole that we call the universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest—a kind of optical illusion of his consciousness. This illusion is a prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection of only the few people nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living things and all of nature.”
Grayson’s Synergetic Therapy views the egoic mind as that part of our thinking which creates this illusion of separateness and therefore destroys our peace of mind, judges ourselves and others, makes us anxious, powerless, afraid, depressed, deprived, physically sick, makes us focus on the past or the future and avoid living joyfully and successfully now. Since 90-95% of our ego mindbody is not conscious to us, the goal of therapy, therefore, is to help one “dis-cover” many different ways one can identify the egoic voice, learn tools for letting it go, and therefore continually release all that prevents us from having a life abundant with peace, health, joy, success, and loving relationships even when there is insanity and tragedy in the world about us.
Our problems begin when we come into a body ego, which appears to be separate from others, from the universe and from Source. We then grow up individuating and thinking we are separate. But as quantum physicists now point out, confirming much of ancient spiritual thought confirms an interconnectedness for everyone at an invisible level. As the esteemed physicist Erwin Shroedinger put it: “The number of minds I have observed in the universe is one.” Physicist David Bohm calls it the unified field. Our basic healing of all our problems is to heal this illusion of separateness. But recognizing that we are most likely not able to do all this at once, we may therefore need to work on it in steps and pieces, focusing on different specific problems or areas of concern. Each will lead to the ultimate goal of deeper healing of the self.
Synergetic therapy recognizes that our problems in this life begin with our early painful experiences, which we will call traumas, sometimes even beginning in the uterus. Some may begin with our ancestors or in previous lives. Traumas can be catastrophic events, but also includes those daily insidious developmental experiences of being neglected, criticized, not listened to, as well as inadequate nurturance or guidance, and out of these situations are born the origination of many negative core beliefs about ourselves, others or about life in general. Traumas such as: emotional abuse, abandonment, as well as physical and sexual abuse may make even deeper imprints in our lives. Studies show that unresolved traumas set us up not only for physical illnesses, but even for replays of our old painful and undesirable experiences, attracting repetitions of the very things we loath into our lives like a magnetic force field.
Synergetic therapy is influenced by neuropsychology and brain scan studies noticing that it may take very little for old traumas to be reactivated, sometimes totally hijacking the rational parts of the brain. We may often find ourselves behaving totally irrationally in response to seemingly innocuous statements or behaviors. Also, brain scan studies show us that talking therapy alone not only may not clear out effects of such traumas, but may actually rehearse and intensify them. Therefore, synergetic therapy draws from the latest methods which are highly effective in actually removing the encodings of this painful information from the limbic system, the survival brain, and other parts of our bodies. These include EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), TFT (Thought Field Therapy), EFTA (An adaptation of EFT by Grayson), TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy), creative visualization, diaphragmatic breath work, self-hypnosis, and other body based therapies. The past pains influencing our lives negatively may sometimes come from multiple sources which are pre-memory for us, such as early childhood traumas, birth traumas, intrauterine traumas, genetic memories, and sometimes past lives (whether seen as literal or metaphorical). We also carry “downloads” of our parent’s dysfunctional ways of dealing with life as well as the positive downloads such as language and walking on two feet. Synergetic therapy uses methods drawn from applied kinesiology to quickly identify when and where these traumas or downloads occurred, how much disturbance remains effecting your life today, the specific method to use for clearing them, and assess when they are fully cleared. If not cleared, they continue to influence our lives negatively today.
These painful experiences or traumas lead us to draw negative conclusions about ourselves, as noted above. Furthermore, these conclusions form core beliefs which literally work like software in our computer/brains and “print out in our lives” what we have programmed in. We may come to believe we are: inadequate, not loveable, not good enough, rejectable, or unworthy, just to mention a few. We may also believe we will be: judged, abandoned, abused, deprived, criticized or that it is not safe to assert ourselves in the world, and be especially reticent to show our deepest and most vulnerable feelings. We may have come to believe that we do not deserve an abundance of health, success and rewarding relationships so that we live unconsciously blocking our efforts in this direction. We now understand that the human brain, being the prototype of the modern computer, has learned “programs” which can be deleted. The new methods listed above are also very capable of eradicating negative core beliefs and we can literally install new “software” which we can use as a new operating system for our lives. And then, methods such as Grayson’s Occipital Hold Technique, which includes a strong focus of intent, breath work and musical sounds to slow the brain waves down to delta induce bilateral stimulation of the brain, stimulation of the subtle energies in the brain, left brain and right brain activity such as creative visualizations, and anchoring the emotion of these in the body, can all help us open new neural pathways necessary for this new positive information flow, making it easier to make ongoing positive changes in our lives.
Grayson’s Synergetic Therapy recognizes that we often have barriers to achieving the emotional and/or physical health, happiness, and success in life and in relationships. Many try hard to use the laws of attraction but are unsuccessful. It’s much like trying to sail a boat, realizing we are not moving very much, because we unconsciously drag a few anchors behind us. Synergetic Therapy uses muscle testing from Applied Kinesiology to identify these “anchors” or resistances which keep us from healing, happiness, and success and we can use new ways to cut them loose to “sail” more freely. It identifies these “anchors” or reversed energies quickly and accurately, rather than having to speculate about them for months or even years.
The past pains combined with our old belief systems fuel our 72-74,000 thoughts we think each day, which largely grow out of our old traumas and beliefs. And we tend to repeat as many as 90-95% of the thoughts we had yesterday, and will do it again tomorrow and the next day. These repetitive thoughts then rehearse our old belief systems, reinforcing our old negative beliefs and thereby perpetuate our problems. Also, even if we clear the negative belief, if we keep thinking the thoughts which would reinforce it, we can actually rebuild the belief again in a few weeks. It becomes necessary for us to learn methods to become aware of our ego mind thoughts, tools to use to let them go, and then learn to think thoughts which would construct happy, healthy, and successful lives instead. Our goal is to learn to “never to allow any thought to linger in our minds without our express permission.” To this end, Dr. Grayson has developed a highly effective, yet simple and easy to use 18 second technique for increasing our success in thought monitoring. If we do not control which thoughts linger in our minds we do not have control of our lives and cannot be happy and healthy. Synergetic therapy emphasizes thought monitoring, mindfulness, the thymus heart rub, and other mind training exercises which help us to be more in control of what happens in our minds, our bodies and our lives. Having cleared the effects of old traumas, core beliefs and downloads helps to make thought monitoring much easier and more effective, but also thought monitoring then helps us not reactivate our traumas nor rebuild our negative beliefs.
Our traumas, core beliefs, and repetitive thoughts set us up for our “interpretive perceptions.” There are no purely objective perceptions, for all are filled with meanings we give to what we see based on our traumas, beliefs and thoughts. If a trauma is not cleared, and the negative belief which grew out of it, we will likely experience something in our perception as dangerous and threatening even when it is not. It will actually hijack out our logic and throw us into totally irrational reactions based on our past rather than present reality. We literally see through eyes of the past. If we have cleared our traumas and negative beliefs, then we can then be more likely to make a perceptual shift, which means that we can now see things differently. Perhaps we can see that whatever does not come out of love, most likely comes out of fear in some way. When we can see a perpetrator as afraid (not condoning his behavior) but have compassion for his or her fear, we are empowered and do not feel like victims any more. When we react out of fear ourselves, we will attract more victimization and will actually be weakened. When we feel compassion we are infinitely strong as a simple test of muscular strength will reveal.
Stress is a large part of our lives. The New England Journal of Medicine reported that as many as 80% of office visits to primary care physicians are from people whose symptoms are stress induced. And research shows that stress is not as much from what happens, but from what we think about events, circumstances and people. Synergetic therapy offers multiple ways of dealing with stress: In addition, the above methods used for clearing are quite effective for reducing stress. Also incorporating mindfulness, diaphragmatic breathing, relaxation techniques, self hypnosis, meditation, energy psychology techniques (acupressure point stimulation on oneself, the thymus-heart rub, thought monitoring, and prayer, and practices to surrender the ego mind and open ourselves to Higher Guidance inside creates a mindbody environment conducive to health, happiness and success.
Learning new behaviors and attitudes to replace old habituated ones are not always easy. Therefore, Synergetic Therapy recognizes that we must open new neural pathways in order for new habits and patterns to become assimilated. Certain visualization practices combined with energy meridian therapy or bilateral stimulation of the brain, including the Occipital Hold Technique, are used to open this flow of new and positive information to make the new behaviors flow more easily and therefore become habituated.
Using all these practices helps to free us from the ego mind, accessing more of our inner power and wisdom, thereby helping us begin to dis-cover our True Self which may have been long hidden from our awareness- the Self which is part of the All-That-Is. Many of the practices used in this Synergetic Therapy can also be used alone for personal growth, so that we have the tools to deal with many situation and problems on our own, ongoingly.
Instead of the old deterministic and limiting world view of Newtonian physics, he draws from a world view of infinite potentiality as presented in Quantum Physics and world wide spiritual wisdom as well as exercises from the yogic traditions such as mindfulness, meditation and deep breath work. He also uses all the symptoms and signals in the body as a language to be translated and understood, not just as a problem to get rid of. This and applied kinesiology provide a road to the unconscious and freedom from it.
Grayson’s Synergetic Therapy holds that there is a place in you where:
- Happiness, health, peace and joy are boundless
- you cannot be disturbed by what others do or don’t do
- there is an inner strength and power that prevents your feeling like a victim of people, situations and even your own genes
- you never have to feel empty, but always full of love
- you have infinite inner creativity and power to direct and heal your life